What Are The Signs Of A Cheating Spouse?
If you suspect your spouse is cheating, you get that sick-to-your-stomach feeling that just won’t go away. You almost wish you didn’t know the truth, don’t you? In all honesty, sticking your head in the sand won’t solve anything, and you know it. You need to know the truth so you can handle the situation in the best possible way. Yes, you’re angry, but you owe it to yourself to first find out the truth about the cheating signs.
First of all, if you suspect your spouse of being unfaithful, ask them. You need to find the right words to say at the right time, but if you truly suspect infidelity, you have every right to get the truth directly from your spouse. If you are unable to do this, or unsure of the honesty behind their response, then there are other steps you can take to uncover the truth.
In the age of computers and cell phones, it is difficult for anyone to hide much from someone who is monitoring them. If calls from an unknown number are dialed or received, or websites such as chatrooms or personal pages you do not recognize show up in your computer’s history, these may be signs your spouse is cheating, or at least hiding something from you. If this is the case, you should be on the look out for changes in their schedule, appearnce or behavior, as these may also be sure signs of infidelity.
If your spouse takes up a new hobby, or suddenly has a new interest that they have never mentioned to you, that can be one of the cheating signs. Be careful, as maybe he is just becoming more interesting. However, it’s more likely that he has found someone to share time with who is pursuing those interests already. Sudden new interest in something is especially indicative of cheating if that activity requires a lot of time away from home, like late nights or travel. If you suspect this is the case, try offering to take up that hobby as well, so you can spend that time together. If he or she does not go for that, you need to have an open discussion about why you can’t be included.
Often when spouses cheat, they will take on a new appearance, almost as if they are wearing a new identity. Men may make more of an effort to tone up and women may dress nicer or wear more make-up than usual. If your spouse has begun to take more interest in their appearance, ask them what it is all about. You may be surprised to find out they want to look nicer for you.
The last sure sign of cheating is a change in behavior. If your normally loving spouse has stopped showing affection, if they no longer hug or kiss you, there is a reason why. If they have begun to treat you differently, you deserve to find out why. It may not be infidelity, but there is something going on to prompt this change in behavior.
If some or all of these cheating signs are present in your relationship, it’s time to have an open discussion. Keep your cool and lay out the facts. Let your spouse confirm or deny those facts and go from there. Marriage is built on trust and openness and even in a situation like this one you need to be able to talk to each other.
Finally, follow your gut instinct. You generally know the truth, and need to admit to yourself that you know it. That’s the only way you will be able to deal with what you need to do.
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